Many of us are raised to behave a certain way in society and adopt routines so we can become "successful" adults. Success meaning, "go to school, get a career, and make money." I know I was one of those kids, even though my parents have always supported my artistic interests, there are still going to be people we grow up with who disagree with "non-conventional" children and attempt to find ways to normalize behavior and mold us into compliance.
Naturally out-of-the-box thinkers are ridiculed and looked down upon because they can be eccentric and misunderstood to society. Sometimes the struggle to fit in somewhere can be so critical that eventually we give up and begin to hide our true individuality from the world because we do not want to be judged. We start to suppress our self-expression and conform to the normality of every day routines and social expectations. Sometimes we even judge others weirdness while forgetting our own.
Remember that everyone is weird! We don't need to pretend to be normal, or pretend to be weirder than anyone else. Everyone is gifted in their own way. Normality is nonexistent. It is only a level of comfort we bring upon ourselves to conform, and it's not rare that even we begin to think we can live normally. Whether it be influenced by social ridicule or simply being afraid to come out of your shell. Normality is only a hidden madness within the mind, often suppression of personal truth. Whenever I see a seemingly normal individual I always wonder about the madness in their own head....What is their talent? What is their art? Who are they?
I'm seeing a balance of change within people today. A lot of people are opening their minds, yet still so many people remain within themselves and only open their mouths! Although we still have a long way to go in terms of acceptance of ourselves and others, there is still a great amount of members within our communities that are opening their minds and being more open to those who are more eccentric. The more positive feedback we have for one another, the more we can emerge from hiding within ourselves! Nobody should have to hide out of fear of judgment.
I've never found ultimate comfort in wandering any kind of "normal" path. How many of you have tried and failed at it because you eventually turn miserable and out of place? It's not healthy! Psychologically as well as physically. I tried for a duration, but always knew somewhere that I wasn't destined for that kind of journey. I do consider that time period a great lesson nonetheless, because I did learn a lot about myself.
Some people succumb to suppressing their quirkiness for normalcy at some point and even become convinced they are comfortable, but I think there is always a deeper level of discomfort, depression, that may even be unnoticeable to the individual experiencing it. Sometimes we forget to look at our own patterns and routines and analyze them against how they are influenced by our mental state. Even going as far as reflecting our angst on the people around us. Tons of damage is done when we do not express ourselves.
Oddly enough, as I began to ponder this in my journal this morning, a man wandered into the shop wearing a suit and tie. Probably the most boring suit ever....Beige. Seemingly normal, right? I was getting ready for the sales pitch because he had a catalog in hand, but rather than introducing with his business here he starts off by commenting on the music I was playing. (Beats Antique radio.) Later in the conversation I learned that he has a totally different identity that doesn't even relate to the -suit-and-tie guy persona. A musician, and member of the community here in Sonoma County. With the writing I was starting off with this morning, it kind of made my day.
Never give up your eccentric expression!! Embrace it, utilize it! So long as you are true, you will find the right path and nothing will stop you.